Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Let’s clear something up: OCD isn’t just about being “super tidy,” alphabetising your pantry, or washing your hands a lot. Chuck out that TV stereotype. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is way more intense, way more stubborn, and honestly, way more misunderstood than most people realise.

YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS. YOU ARE NOT YOUR FEELINGS.

Let’s say that again because it matters: You are not your thoughts. You are not your feelings.

OCD will swear black and blue that you are your thoughts — that you must be a “bad person” for thinking something weird, scary, or disgusting. The gut-punch of anxiety can make it all feel real and inescapable. Thoughts are just noise. Feelings are weather — they come, they go, but they aren’t you. When you’re deep in it, this can feel like total bullshit — like there’s no separation at all. With support, practice, and the right help, you can start to see the distance. You are the observer, not the content.

OCD in Real Life

OCD will swear black and blue that you are your thoughts — that you must be a “bad person” for thinking something weird, scary, or disgusting. The gut-punch of anxiety can make it all feel real and inescapable. Thoughts are just noise. Feelings are weather — they come, they go, but they aren’t you. When you’re deep in it, this can feel like total bullshit — like there’s no separation at all. With support, practice, and the right help, you can start to see the distance. You are the observer, not the content.

It’s a brutal cycle:

1. Obsession triggers anxiety (an intrusive, unwanted thought)
2. Compulsion relieves anxiety (a behaviour or mental ritual to try to feel safe — temporary fix)
3. Repeat — sometimes for hours a day

No matter how smart or self-aware you are, OCD convinces you that the next ritual will finally bring relief. It’s never enough.

Intrusive Thoughts: You’re Not Alone (Not Even Close)

Almost every single one of us gets random, intrusive thoughts from time to time – sometimes truly shocking, weird, funny, or downright disgusting. Ever suddenly imagine yelling during a quiet meeting, swerving your car, or blurting out something inappropriate? Welcome to the club. For the vast majority, these thoughts just zip through, and you brush them off like water off a duck’s back – they’re background noise, not a big deal.

The difference for people with OCD, those thoughts glue themselves into the mind and spark relentless anxiety. Instead of brushing off the “mental spam,” the brain gets stuck, convinced these thoughts must mean something dark or dangerous. 

Intrusive thoughts are a universal human quirk. They only become a problem when they start running your life.

This Isn’t Just Worry

Everyone double-checks a lock or likes things a certain way. That’s not OCD. With OCD, the thoughts are relentless, unwanted, and super-charged with anxiety. You know they don’t make sense – but you can’t just “let it go.” The more you try to ignore them, the more you try to challenge them, the louder they yell.

Forget the “neat freak” myth. Some of the most common obsessions are about contamination, harm, sex, religion, morality, or identity – topics most people shy away from talking about.

Not a Quirk – A Mental Health Condition

• To count as OCD, this cycle eats up at least an hour a day, causes big distress, and gets in the way of living your life.
• Just liking things organised or being “obsessed” (remember — an obsession is something that is NOT wanted) with your footy team doesn’t cut it.
• “OCD thoughts” are ego-dystonic – they feel alien, unwanted, and totally out of sync with who you are and what you value.

“I Know It’s Irrational, But…”

Most people with OCD know their compulsions are excessive or illogical – but the anxiety feels real, not optional. The brain’s threat system goes haywire. Compulsions become the emergency escape, even though you wish you didn’t have to do them at all.

OCD isn’t picky – it hits people of any age, background, or personality. You can be easy-going, creative, driven, messy, tidy – OCD doesn’t discriminate.

It’s Not Your Fault (And You’re Not Alone)

• OCD is not a character flaw.
• It’s not about being “weak-minded,” “overly dramatic,” or “attention-seeking.”
• If this cycle sounds like you – or someone you love – know there are evidence-based treatments (like Exposure and Response Prevention therapy) that work.
• The first step? Bust the myths, say the words out loud, and get curious instead of ashamed. The last thing OCD wants is for you to shine a light on it.

Fast Takeaways:

• OCD = intrusive thoughts (obsessions) + repetitive behaviours or mental rituals (compulsions) done to neutralise anxiety.
• Intrusive thoughts are absolutely normal (every brain does it). OCD is when they stick and dominate your life.
• It’s a real, disruptive condition – not a preference for order.
• The cycle is exhausting, often isolating, and deserves respect, not ridicule.
• Help is out there – and recovery is possible.

If you or someone you know is struggling, reaching out takes guts but it can be life changing. It Ain’t Weak to Speak.